He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

How do you get a man to commit? To become a one woman man and husband material? Is there a secret to transforming a bachelor into a family man? For various reasons it seems to be harder than taming a wild animal. Are a percentage of men really trapped in the bachelor lifestyle for eternity? Or are they specifically waiting for the right match to come along, much like women wait to be swept off their feet? Getting a man to commit can be a challenge. It can take ten years, and probably some Botox treatments before he is ready to make that next step. Thus should a woman wait on the man she loves, or should she move on? The person you love is definitely worth to put up a fight for, but on the other hand you can waste your life away on a never ending battle. The proverb says "If you love something let it go, and if it comes back it is yours to keep." Well is there a number limit to this proverb?  How many times can we let him back into our lives before the saying is insignificant? Goodness most of us are at two hands and counting. We have ran out of fingers, and what happens when we run out of toes? The trick to knowing how long a noncommittal man is worth waiting on will always come to you sooner or later. Every woman will have a different timeline, and hopefully you will be one of the lucky women who earned her trophy. Here are a few things that might help you win over your prince: First of, don't be a woman who expects and wants commitment after the first date. It's just not going to happen. Secondly, be the woman he can take home to mother. Most men have strong relationships with their mother and want to impress their mothers with a classy, beautiful, and a charmful lady. He will NOT bring home a trashy woman with no class or etiquette. Google "etiquette" to freshen up on your lady skills for better chances on having your man commit. Furthermost this will give you the upper hand above other women he might also be seeing. Next, for the noncommittal man, you need to make sure he has some sort of attachment to you. Aim for being the one he calls when he is having a long day. Aim to be the one he wants to spend his Saturdays with not just the Friday night booty call. If you can achieve this, honey you are one step closer to being his woman. Establish communication. Assure him that you will always be the one he can count on. Show your commitment to him and nine times out of ten he will come to you when something is on his mind. Without a strong communication bond there will be nothing that will connect his mind to you. Men not only look for sexual stimulation, they also look for mental stimulation. Keep it interesting. If he needs to talk, listen. Never force it however, communication should flow freely. Use your womanly charm, we all have it!  When a man is telling you about his problems it is because he trusts you. He wouldn't risk his ego for just anybody. When all fails, give him a little kick in his butt. Sometimes the obvious is easy to miss, and you need to speak up. Put your anticipations out there. How can a man ever know what you really want if you don't tell him? For many women this is the hardest part. The last thing we want is to run him away. As long as you aren't acting emotionally attached after the first date, there is nothing wrong with telling him your feelings. Take a deep breath and express yourself! Sitting there quietly will never earn you what you want...him!! Tell him you are looking for something more and listen to his response. It is probably best to do this in person so you can read his body language at the same time. If he avoids your confessions and gives you the run around, he probably likes you but is not ready to be in a relationship. Don't be surprised, after all you are dealing with a man who has commitment issues. Maybe he is scared of his feelings and needs more reassurance that you will catch him when he falls. Vulnerability is the hardest thing to overcome. Give him a day or two. Wait it out and wait on him to call. If he really sees something special in you he WILL call. Remember, you are the one who can turn his day from bad to good. If he doesn't call, at least you know you gave it your best shot. Some men really can never commit. Look at it as his lose not yours. You have your own expectations and needs to tend too. There is always a man out there that wants to give you what you are worth. Once you have exerted your resources and made your commitment to him undeniable it is up to him to give you commitment back. Fighting for him will not be easy, it will probably cause you many sleepless nights and many tears but as women we are strong fighters. Yet, nevertheless there comes a point in a woman's life when she just does not feel like crying anymore, after all is life not too short? Battles are not meant to last forever, every battle ends eventually. You will either win your man, or realize he was never really worth the fight or the time you had invested in the relationship to begin with.